Domination is the companion to submission in the D/s relationship and involves the intentional and consensual domination of one person over another. This is a dynamic with a lot of erotic charge and one that can lead to significant freedom for those involved.

Submission is a fascinating subject that can raise eyebrows and lead to concerned discussion. Such reactions emerge from ignorance about what submission actually is when it is practiced consensually and ethically, and it tends to overlook the inherent power that lies within the submissive…

During 2025 I had seven sessions of Sexological Bodywork; these poems attempt to capture the magic…

Sexual confidence plays such a role in the entirety of our erotic experiences with ourselves and others.

It can be right there and impossible to ignore or it can be nowhere and seemingly impossible to find. What and why is this?

Erotic experiences can be profound, particularly if there is depth of intimacy and a close connection in the sharing.

‘Our sexual energy is like a spaceship which can transport us to beautiful and interesting new worlds where we can bring back incredible treasures; but most of us use our spaceship to go down the street to pick up a loaf of white bread’.

Attributed to Ki Bournes via Betty Martin

This is the bedrock of everything in the bedroom and the majority of the remainder of our lives.

The diagram shown here represents the Wheel of Consent (developed by Betty Martin), which is used widely throughout touch practices as a framework for consensual interaction. It’s brilliant and it works!

The art of truly living life through your erotic body.

Have you ever been in the presence of someone exuding eroticism? If you have, your enduring memory may be of their physical presence, which seemed to ooze sexuality from every pore. Did you notice how their energy changed the room? Did they catch your eye? Did they turn you on? This is one of the ways erotic embodiment shows up in the world.

“Erotic pleasure is a river that leads to the sea of profound experience.”

This quote, adapted from the author Don Shewey, is unbelievably accurate in my experience.

Pleasure is the exquisite within us that responds when our body and presence align. It reflects our erotic engagement with life and it is something we really don’t spend enough time with.

And interesting things happen with our pleasure as we mature…

When we develop erotically, we grow in our bodies and in our hearts.

Real men (actually - pretty much everyone who has ever been with one) love sex witches. And here’s why…

Eroticism - a quality of aliveness and a pathway to freedom.

Thank you Esther Perel for this definition.

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Five main reasons…